HOW CAN I HELP?
This page has a twofold purpose.

First and foremost, it is meant as a resource for those who have someone close to them experiencing loss, and wonder what they can do besides just saying, "I'm so sorry."

Secondly, it is meant as a thank-you page, because each thing listed on this page is something that someone did for us when Wel died, and I could never, ever thank any of them enough for supporting us during that terrible, awful time.

I would also like to extend my very heartfelt thanks to Silverhair, who allowed me to use her wonderful tiger graphic for this site. I highly recommend that you visit her site if you are looking for graphics.

Jewel and Singing Wolf took us to buy clothes for the funeral.
Kesbat answered the deluge of incoming phone calls and e-mails.
Greg and Teri cooked for the mass of people "sitting shiva" at our house.
Erin and Raven Wolf put cabbage leaves on my engorged breasts, to make them stop hurting.
MacKay made cakes for the Ceremony of Passage.
Uncle Frank wrote a poem about Wel.
Aunt Lynn made my favorite artichoke dip for the wake.
Cliona made sure there was an alternate chalice for my friends who don't drink alcohol.
Toni watched my nieces and nephews so that my brother and sisters could be with me.
Nicola and Toni went and picked up the portraits I had just had made of my boys before Wel died.
Jewel went and had the large portrait matted and framed beautifully for the ceremony.
Nicola colored my hair and brought me makeup, and put it on me before the funeral.
Kesbat did our laundry.
Clifton let me beat him up after I hurt my hand hitting a tree.
Terry brought paper plates and cups so I wouldn't have to wash so many dishes.
Frederika took me to get my hair and nails done.
Ernest got my older boy ready for the funeral and brought him there.
Jewel drove me to the doctor's office, then went and picked up my prescriptions.
Hans came and mowed our lawn.
Singing Wolf chose my favorite chants and songs for the ceremony.
My mother sang a song at the funeral that had been special between her and me, Mommy and little girl.
My daddy put a pocketknife in the cauldron to go with Wel to the Summerland.
Erin and Hans drove us home from the police station.
Silverstar and Star officiated at the ritual.
Thomas and Clifton were temple guardians.
Minerva and Sapphire Dawn bought the candles for the ritual.
Sapphire Dawn bought a cake and sent it to the family visitation afterwards.
Kesbat and Singing Wolf took up a collection to assist with expenses.
The Pagan Alliance of Central Texas and Shari at the Willow Tree organized fundraisers to help us out.

If you have something to add to this page, please email me.

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